Domestic adoption to-do's
Now that the Xmas madness has abated, I can tally up what's to do next in adoption-land.
1. get fingerprinted for DCFS license - DONE. Waiting for results.
2. send DCFS paperwork to SW - DONE except for med forms, which can follow later
3. see doctor on Feb 2 (self) and Feb 11 (hub) to get med forms filled out. For China adoption, med forms require HIV status, TB test, assorted other stuff. For DCFS, it's mostly about whether you can lift a child and if you're likely to die before 18 years from now. No blood work, apparently. Whew. Because Tanya, my doctor's needle tech, is great, but she skips my shy elbow veins and goes in through the back of my hand. Which HURTS.
4. take cat to vet for new rabies shot. Need to do before SW visit so we have paperwork for her.
5. verify that batteries in smoke detectors are up to date
6. install bannister - DONE. This wasn't strictly necessary, but when you show your SW around the house and wave a hand at the basement stairs and say "we're going to put in a bannister soon" it's probably good to do it before her next visit a year-and-a-half later.
7. re-caulk the basement shower. Okay, ridiculous, SW won't care, but it really needs it, so we may as well tie that task to the adoption because then we'll get it done soon.
8. Go to Indy to meet with placement agency and get paperwork started with them, Jan 5. EEK
9. reserve hotel for Indy trip - yeah, really gotta do that, like NOW.
10. write "dear birthmother" letter, a task which squicks me on several levels. To be discussed in a future post, no doubt.
11. apply for 401k loan, which will cover about half the cost of the adoption. Our already-existing home equity line of credit (taken out for the China adoption) should cover the other half. Just in case, I also applied for an extra credit card, which hopefully will arrive soon.
12. re-work budget to figure out how to make the payments on the loans (totally doable) and daycare (doable with some sacrifices), possibly for twins (maybe not doable). (also totally unlikely to happen, but we need to know how we'd answer the question, should opportunity arise).
13. Take the online "conspicuous families" course recommended by our SW, soon
14. Take the local workshop on adoption & child development recommended by our SW, Feb 23
15. SW visit. She's been here before, so this is a followup/update visit. Probably will happen sometime in January.
16. Talk to my bosses to let them know I might need some unexpected FMLA leave in 2008 - DONE
17. Talk to my staff to let them know I might be vanishing for a month - will do that once the process is underway.
18. Hub has to talk to his bosses and find out if they do paid paternity leave at his company. If not, he has a lot of vacation he can take.
And in the land of China adoption, there's just one thing to do right now, and one to do later:
1. decide if we're going to file a new I-600, or if we let the I-171H expire and re-file in a couple of years when we're closer to a match
2. decide if we're going to stay in the China program at all. Yeah, I said it. We'll decide this AFTER, and if, we complete a domestic adoption.